Couple and Relationship Counselling
Couple and Relationship Counseling Online and In Person In Vancouver, BC.
Rediscover Connection, Heal Together, and Build a Stronger Bond
Every relationship has its challenges. Maybe you feel stuck in the same arguments, distant from your partner, or unsure how to rebuild trust. Life’s transitions or deeper struggles might have left you feeling disconnected, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Couple and relationship counseling offers a safe, inclusive space to explore these challenges and create a stronger, more fulfilling connection.
Rewriting Your Story: Understanding Attachment with EFT
Relationships can sometimes feel like being caught in a frustrating loop — the same arguments, the same distance, and the same stuck feeling. You’re trying your best to connect, but somehow it’s just not working. Let me introduce you to The Badger and The Turtle, a story that might resonate with your experience.
The Badger and The Turtle
Picture this: The Badger longs for connection. When they feel a sense of distance, they lean in, push, and try to fix it. Meanwhile, the Turtle feels overwhelmed by all the intensity. To protect themselves, they pull back, retreating into their shell and shutting down. This reaction only makes the Badger push harder, which, in turn, makes the Turtle hide even deeper.
This back-and-forth is what we call an attachment cycle. One partner pursues connection while the other withdraws to feel safe. Beneath it all, both partners are longing for the same thing: to feel loved, valued, and understood.
How EFT Can Help You Break the Cycle
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) provides a way to step out of this cycle by exploring what’s happening beneath the surface. EFT helps you move beyond blame and frustration to understand:
What drives each partner’s reactions and patterns.
Why one partner may push harder when connection feels off.
Why the other may pull away when things feel overwhelming.
How both partners can meet each other’s emotional needs in a safe and supportive way.
Through EFT, we uncover the emotions and attachment needs beneath the surface, creating a foundation for genuine connection. Instead of feeling stuck in old patterns, you can discover new ways to relate—ways that feel secure, kind, and healing.
Building a Stronger Bond with EFT
Here’s what couple and relationship counseling using EFT can help you achieve:
A deeper understanding of the emotions beneath each reaction.
A safe environment where you can share openly and feel truly heard.
Practical tools to improve communication and repair trust.
A stronger bond where both partners feel seen, valued, and loved.
These patterns don’t have to define your relationship. Counseling offers a chance to rewrite your story and build a connection that feels more secure and fulfilling.
What to Expect in Couple and Relationship Counseling
Counseling provides a safe, welcoming space where you and your partner can explore challenges together. Each session is tailored to your unique needs and focuses on fostering connection, understanding, and emotional security.
During our work together, we’ll:
Explore the emotions and attachment needs driving your patterns.
Practice new ways of communicating that foster connection and trust.
Strengthen your bond by creating mutual understanding and empathy.
Whether you're addressing recent challenges, healing after a rupture, or simply wanting to deepen your connection, counseling helps you take meaningful steps toward a more secure relationship.
Inclusive Support for All Relationships
Relationships are as unique as the people in them. I celebrate diversity and provide support for partners from all walks of life, including:
LGBTQ+ partners exploring identity, intimacy, and connection.
Mixed-race and immigrant couples navigating cultural differences.
Couples managing the impact of mental health challenges, such as anxiety, depression, or chronic pain.
Partners healing after infidelity or exploring non-monogamous relationships.
Blended families or parents balancing co-parenting challenges.
No matter your background or relationship structure, this is a space for you to feel supported, heard, and valued.
Let’s Work Together
Relationships don’t have to stay stuck in frustration or distance. Couple and relationship counseling is about understanding each other on a deeper level and finding ways to create a bond that feels strong and secure. Together, we’ll work to rewrite your story and build a connection that brings you closer.
Book a consultation with your loved one(s) using my online booking and take the first step toward healing and connection.
“Love is a constant process of tuning in, connecting, missing & misreading cues, disconnecting, repairing, & finding deeper connection.
It is a dance of meeting & parting & finding each other again. Minute to minute and day to day.”